Most of us are too busy struggling to survive on Earth to
think about what might come after death. But experiences I’ve had have forced me to think about this
question, experiences that stopped me cold because I couldn’t explain them. Things
happen that force people to ponder the possibility of others worlds. Well, you ask, are there any?
This is a complicated question and has at least three parts.
The first is conceptual. Does it
make sense to say that people’s minds survive the death of their bodies? How can
we begin to imagine how post-death consciousness is possible? One way is to
realize that consciousness cannot be explained by anything material, and therefore
must pre-exist our brains and thus possibly post-exist them.
The second part of the question is empirical. Are there any fact-based reports that
suggest known people’s minds have indeed survived death? It may be a surprise
to many, but there is a large amount of reportage that suggests the answer is
yes.
Lastly, there’s the problem of context. Beliefs are culture-bound. In the
Middle Ages the afterlife was established paradigm; in our age of scientific
materialism, the belief is suspect.
So we have to double-down on the factual
way to explore the mystery, but in a context of rational open-mindedness. Progress depends on getting rid of rigid
assumptions and ideologies and focusing on matters of fact. (An effort we know some people find very
painful,)
On the empirical side, then, I’d like to describe a trio of incidents
puzzling enough to suggest the reality of afterlife consciousness. The first has a striking veridical
element. I was living in New Jersey
and one hot summer night was unable to sleep, so I moved to the couch in the
living room where it was cooler. By the time I began to fall asleep the sun was
coming up and threw an amber glow into the room. I opened my eyes and looked up
and saw standing above me about five feet away a perfectly clear apparition of
my dead grandmother (on my mother’s side). I could see the moistness of her
skin and lips and her whitish-blondish hair in an upsweep. Beside her was another woman, thoughtful-looking and
composed. I made a mental note
that she resembled my mother. They
seemed to be peering at me with curiosity but at the same time through me. The apparitions hovered there a few
seconds and then faded away.
Well, that woke me up and set me thinking. Later that day I telephoned my mom and
told her the story. She suggested
I come for a visit (in Astoria, Queens) so a few days later I did so. My mother showed me a photograph including
grandma and her family. I had never seen the photo but immediately singled out
one woman. “That’s her!” I said. “That’s the woman I saw next to grandma
in the apparition.” She was my
grandmother’s sister, Katie, and I had never met her. I remarked to my mother
that “Katie” looked like her; apparently, others had said so too. Why this experience occurred when it did
I have no idea, but it seems very odd that I should be visited by an apparition
of somebody I never met and immediately recognized her in a family photo I had
never seen.
The next incident occurred a few years later and is part of
a longer story, about which I’ll mention just a few details. A student of mine confided to me that
she was having unusual experiences.
She was being guided by a child called Darius who spoke to her in her
dreams. She shared her diary with
me; (I still have the entire manuscript).
‘Darius’ began to instruct her in matters of higher consciousness and at
the same time warned her that if she failed to follow his instructions, things
would turn out badly for her.
Darius her dream instructor was encouraging her to stick
with her impulse to study art while her family and even her boyfriend objected
and tried to convince her to major in business or economics, an idea she
detested. Her family, including a
recently deceased aunt were conservative if not oppressive in their religious
pontifications. But the more they badgered her, the more Darius came to her
rescue, and in a few instances, appeared to her while she was fully awake. As the battle between Darius and
Denise’s family intensified, the young woman began to precognize accidents and
illnesses concerning herself, and did any other inexplicable things. The full
story is of a young woman’s battle for her own soul and I hope one day to
publish the whole story—a story I’m sure will resonate with the creative
energies of the “Me-too Movement.”
Here I’ll report just one event I was party to—a terrifying
dream. The dream occurred from the perspective of myself lying prone in
bed. A hideous old woman, hovering
over me, thrusting a gnarled index finger in my face, said: “You and Denise are
in league with the devil!” So frightening was the aura that emanated from this apparition,
I woke up instantly. But the
leering apparition was still there, finger in my face, exuding an evil vibe,
apparently having stepped out of dream space into physical space in its
eagerness to bully me. And then it
was gone. When I recounted my
dream to Denise, she said it sounded like her aunt Dorothy, and added that her
aunt commonly accused her of being “in league with the devil.”
About this incident, I have one comment: I cannot imagine
that I would conjure up such a hideous specter from my own subconscious to inflict on myself. As far as I’m concerned, I experienced
a visitation of something outside
myself. And it was distinctly
unpleasant. It tempers my
enthusiasm for the afterlife—to think that I might once again run into Aunt
Dorothy.
One more incident that made an indelible impression. It too is part of a longer story, so
I’ll mention the main points. It
was about two o’clock in the morning, and I was on a vigil at a haunted house
in Clifton, New Jersey. About nine
people had seen this apparition of a man who liked to appear when mother or girls
were naked in the shower. This was clearly a dirty old ghost, and I suggested
that the ladies of the house tell him to go to hell. I was invited to spend the night there and see what I could see.
The family agreed that the ghost liked to emerge from near the stairwell. So I stationed
myself on the couch, facing the stairwell.
In fact, I was not expecting anything to happen—but I was
about to be surprised. Suddenly I heard a drumbeat that echoed clearly in the
room. “What?” I said, and looked around, quite startled. On the wall I noticed
a thin drum with a drum stick attached. I got up, took the drumstick and struck
the drum. Same sound I just
heard. Who could possibly have
done this? I was the only person
in the room. It had to have been the
ghost. Who else? Thrilled I should say that the ghost had
honored me by announcing his presence, I leaned back on the couch.
I began to write down what had just happened and glanced up
again toward the stairwell. Much
to my surprise, I saw a semi-transparent form of a man, best to say, rippling
in space. The instant I focused on this hovering form, it moved directly toward
me and quickly wrapped itself around my body. The featureless entity held me paralyzed.
I wanted to scream, “He’s here!” But I couldn’t; I was
cataleptic. What I felt was too
amazing to be frightening; I was fully conscious of the fact that something
outside me had intentionally, and very efficiently, overpowered and taken
control of my body. I felt a curious blend of supernatural frisson and scientific jubilation. The force
that seized me then gently let go.
(Maybe he attacked me because I called him a dirty old ghost.)
So, we have here one drumbeat, caused by something
invisible. One ghost who proves
he’s real in a very aggressive
manner. And there’s something
else. When I was first told about
this peeping discarnate, I thought we might scare him away with a dose of
holiness. I had a small photograph
of Padre Pio (since canonized), and suggested we plant it somewhere in full
view. The Padre was known for his
battles with nasty spirits. So
Mrs. S. placed the Pio photo inside a glass cabinet, fully visible and out of
reach of small children and naughty cats.
According to Mrs. S. that photo promptly disappeared—dematerialized! For nobody, she insisted, could
possibly have taken it, as all were eager to have done with this annoying
spirit.[1]
This trio of incidents (along with many others) have forced me to think outside
the box of standard conceptions of reality—a non-stop bracing intellectual
adventure.
[1] The reader
may consult two of my books that cover these issues and stories in greater
detail. Experiencing the Next World Now.
Paraview Pocket Books (2004) and Soulmaking:
Uncommon Paths to Self-Understanding. Anomalist Books (1997)
Michael, I had you in at least two classes in college. The first one, for which I had to wait nearly a year to take because it was so popular, was titled 'Psychic Phenomena and the Nature of Man'. The second one and equally life-changing for me was'The Philosophy of Death'. Your guidance back in those days was primarily responsible for having chosen academic psychology as a profession.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I do not recall in which one of those two courses you had mentioned the story of Darius, but to this day, I still see it as one of the most fascinating stories of ostensible paranormal phenomena (what is paranormal?!) that I have ever heard. If I am not mistaken, I believe you mentioned this story in one of your books (Soulmaker?) or perhaps in an article that you have written. No matter, I sincerely hope you get around to publishing a fuller account of that story. In that regard, it would be interesting to get Denise's current take (if she is still around) on those experiences of long ago.